BlerDCon the Recap: Part Two

YER. I see you made it to Part Two. Clearly that means you enjoyed Part One 👀. Welcome back, my dedicated reading friend.

Well, since Part One was mostly comprised of the activities I took part in while at the convention, you already know that the second part is going to be about…THE COOKOUT FAM, AYYYYY.

Every convention I go to, just expect me to mention the litty litness of The Cookout. Cookout Fam Chronicles if you will, haha. There’s a lot of pictures that I took of us, so please, enjoy this lovely slideshow:

ANYWAY.

I already learn so much from everyone day to day in Discord, but it’s on a different level when you see your fam in person actually speaking on their personal experiences, etc. with a passionate tone in their voices. Many of the panels I went to, we mostly ventured

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Genesis speaking da truth

to together and it was astounding to hear everyone’s perspectives up close concerning stories and occurrences happening in our communities.

We basically traveled together in one big and various group pods the entire time, and let me tell you, it was the best thing ever. Sure it’s nice to enjoy something alone, but it’s even better to be able to share a moment with someone and laugh, cry and yes, even debate with them about what you all just witnessed (or overheard, LOL).

My most favorite moments occurred when we were all chilling upstairs in @Genesis_0109 hotel room, just hanging out, playing a card game he introduced us to, and just voicing our different opinions on a myriad of topics. If you fell asleep and got caught slipping, best believe you got sleep cammed by yours truly, LOL.

Yes, I have this thing I do called Sleep Cam: if you fall asleep around me while we are all being extremely loud and having fun, your picture will be taken and most likely with people doing random funny things in the background behind you.

I definitely can’t forget the after parties. WHEW CHILLEEEE. We danced and danced and danced, and I thoroughly enjoyed every moment of it. The fam gets super hype okay, that’s all I’m going to say on that.

So, about this COSPLAY.

Last but not least: I cosplayed for the first time in my entire life and let me tell you, that was one of the most exhilarating and rewarding experiences I have had in a while. I’m actually getting emotional as I reflect on getting everything together for it. I’m even more emotional because I cosplayed a character of my own original design.

Realizing the fact that I was able to bring her to life, and it wasn’t too shabby looking either? I WAS SHOOK. What made it even better was that a couple people actually chased me down to take a picture with me! I definitely wasn’t expecting that because, even though I was happy that I cosplayed, I was thinking that my cosplay wasn’t as great as some of the others I saw. I honestly had to keep reminding myself that none of that mattered and that I needed to stop comparing myself. At the end of the day, all that mattered was that I cosplayed, I did my best with what I had, I had fun and freaking I enjoyed it! Now I just have to work on my posing, LOL. (Solo photos of me courtesy of @Tru1p)


Right now, I’m tearing up because, this is my family, and in such a short time, these phenomenal individuals have become incredibly important to me and I care about each and every one of them. It’s such a blessing to be able to serve the community as an Admin staff member because I really get a chance to see how our efforts are helping those that come into the community from a granular perspective. Like I mentioned earlier, I learn so much from being around them and hearing their stories. Even though they roast the heck out of me (out of love, LOL), the out pouring of help, support and love I and everyone else receives is incredible. These are some of the most talented, driven, intelligent, hard-working and dedicated people that I’ve come to meet so far in my life. I hate that we all live so far away from each other, but it’s comforting to know that we are all just a Discord message, Voice Chat, Stream or Game Lobby away.

If you’re a PoC Content Creator looking for a group like The Cookout, I definitely recommend you check us out. The group is only accessible through an application, and that is temporarily closed while we process the huge number of applications we’ve received in the past month or so. However, keep up with us on Twitch, Instagram and Twitter!

Special Shout Out to the Cookout Fam I was able to hang with at this convention, y’all are top tier ❤

@blisscreates, @stellyblanca, @SpoonGodTitan, @willthegreatest, @therealrapcritic @LilaBoBina, @Tru1p, @JermainePlays, @vickibewicked, @_LadyKayLee, @DippedNV8Splash, @007Steeze, @_kingether, @DJ_Cocoa_Butter, @CSamSim, @ProdigyDaPrince, @JediOso, @Leesh_Capeesh, @Nizzy917, @Bball4Life35, @frenchiefied, @unicorninthekitchen@RobRegalGxC, @Genesis_0109, @Son_of_a_yellow, @shinageeeexpress, @TheRetroAstro, @dream_killa22, @xStill_Infamous, @skool_the_otaku and @kendallxanime

(Everyone above isn’t necessarily in the Cookout) If I missed you, it wasn’t on purpose. There was a lot of y’all in two days LOL.


Thank you again for reading Part Two of my BlerDCon Recap! There will be an actual vlog of the activities coming soon, once I find time to sit down and edit!

BlerDCon the Recap: Part One

Not that I don’t mind blowing up everyone’s Twitter and/or Instagram mentions with tags, replies, etc., AND WOULD DEFINITELY DO IT WITHOUT HESITATION… I figured I’d type up an article (paired with a vlog, soon come) of my experience at my first Blerdcon this past weekend instead, because, whew chile I have a lot to say.

I truly don’t even know where to begin. I suppose I’ll first talk about the activities I attended! I probably am going to split this into two parts.

Aside from the blazing heat at the Hyatt Regency in Crystal City (LOL), I was in AWE from the moment I walked into the hotel.

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Repping our North Carolina Area Codes

This time, having my sister (@Bball4Life35) AND brother (@dream_killa22) in tow, we not only went on our first “family” road trip, but we also got to experience a world that we really are mostly cut off from back in our hometowns. I’m glad that I was able to take them with me, and that we were immersed in this adventure together. It’s definitely a memory we will always cherish!

BlerDCon was nothing short of magical. It was a multi-level, action packed weekend, with everyone absolutely living their best lives with no ragrets (not even one letter). I was able to participate in my first Maid Cafe!

That food was AMAZING. It was just as fun as it’s portrayed in Anime, haha. For the first time in my life I tried soba noodles. Not to mention, one of my good friends from college (@treezyspeakeasy) was actually a maid (Her maid name was Michiko)! It was super awesome to see another one of my friends enjoying the same type of interest as myself. The rest of the Maid Cafe staff were super hospitable too. Since I went to the Cafe alone (I high key was wandering and forgot to tell my fam that I ended up there, LOL), they sat and talked with me the entire time which I really appreciated.

We also visited a few panels. To name a few: It Really Be Your Own People: Gatekeeping the Black Experience, D.I.Y. Sci-Fi Filmmaking and discussion on the Culture of Black Twitter.

It Really Be Your Own People: Gatekeeping the Black Experience was an insightful IMG_0829.jpegdiscussion because it drew light to the fact that, whether we mean to or not…we all gatekeep at some point.

  • If you’re unsure of what “Gatekeeping” means, it’s referring to making someone feel as though they can’t enjoy a hobby, show, book, series, etc. because they don’t necessarily have as much knowledge as you do on the respective topic. Basically making them feel as though they don’t have a right to enjoy whatever it is they’re trying to enjoy because they don’t know all the backstories. Miss me with that.

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I, along with many other people, have witnessed this happening on various social medias, and it’s honestly disgusting and pointless. Just let someone enjoy whatever it is they’re trying to enjoy (as long as it’s not illegal or very wrong, yikes).

The D.I.Y. Sci-Fi Filmmaking panel I came in at the end of (because I was putting on my cosplay, huehuehue). However, for the little bit that I could listen in on, I thoroughly IMG_0842.jpegenjoyed it and probably will soon be getting back into learning more about Premiere Pro and After Effects since I have access to them for now! My takeaway from this panel was that you can do a lot with a little, and you’re really only limited by your imagination.

The discussion on the Culture of Black Twitter, led by one of my super totally awesome brilliant friends Lila (@LilaBoBina), and two other women making some power moves outchea, Tanya (@cypheroftyr) and Shonté (@ShonteWrites),

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Tanya, Shonté and Lila

IMG_0990highlighted how Black Twitter means a lot of different things for everyone. They also discussed how much society takes ideas from Black Twitter and tries to market it back to the rest of the world as if it was their original idea. They especially are privy to doing this without giving credit to the people that they stole from.

Quirktastic, the group who hosted Quirkcon back in June, also collaborated on a video with another group called TeamRedPro to make a live action short film called Afro Samurai Champloo. Y’all. This had to be one of the best and most hilarious short films I’ve seen in a while! The blooper reel definitely had me rolling at the end, ahaha.

Among the other things, I was able to attend a little bit of the comedy show and peek in on some of the table top gaming they had going on as well. I can’t forget the PLETHORA of extraordinary vendors that seemed to never end! Oh, and don’t get me started on the Food Trucks, WHEW CHILE.

I also SHOOK ESTELLE’S HAND, AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Haha, well, I think this is a good stopping point for BlerDCon the Recap: Part One. If you would like to read Part Two, stay tuned. If not, that ain’t no problem! I definitely do appreciate you taking the time to read Part One! Be Blessed fam!


Also, I want to just say that everyone, no matter which con you go to…everyone should experience a con. More specifically a comic, gaming, anime, etc. type con. It’s an incredible adventure that I believe would bring out the inner kid in all of us.

More pics from the convention:

The 5 Areas that Affect People Holistically

Ever heard of this anywhere? I just recently learned about it from (bit of disclosure here) my counselors that I began to see last year. Today I want to share what I learned about these five areas. As you continue to read, you’ll see and begin to notice how much attention you give to these five areas.

Sleeping

How many of us get the right amount of sleep on a nightly basis? How many of us are even able to sleep, but can’t due to factors such as insomnia?  I for one know that if I don’t get enough sleep, the next day I’m either wired up or completely drained. I’m barely able to keep my eyes open. We should be trying to get at least six hours of sleep every night. However, there are a lot of factors that prevent us from doing so. I’m talking about that deep sleep too. I notice that if I sleep with lights on, I don’t get the chance to really rest because though I may be asleep, I’m not in the stage of deep sleep. Therefore, not recharging. If you’re like me, try cutting off the lights, putting your fan on the lowest speed, placing your phone somewhere that’s not close to your bed and see if there’s a difference!

Eating

This is something I struggle with A LOT, and even more so because I have Crohn’s Disease. My appetite isn’t effected, don’t get me wrong, but if I don’t eat regularly, I lose weight at the drop of a hat. In the month of January, I had some (still do) financial difficulty, and bills took the priority of eating. So, I was barely eating and ended up losing three pounds to put me at 114. Not good. Anyway, I said all this to say that when I don’t eat, I don’t have much strength or a lot of energy. That goes for anyone. Your body needs food! It affects a PLETHORA of things, including your mood. If you don’t eat, your body will start eating itself to stay alive.

Meditating/Praying

This area, in my opinion, is one of the more important ones out of all five. Meditating and/or praying greatly helps your mood. It gives you a chance to self-reflect, shut out the world for a short time period, and just focus inward, allowing you to listen to your body. This world is absolutely bonkers. We have to take time to disassociate from it and relax. There is an incredible amount of agitating factors in the world that seek to destroy our mental health, so why wouldn’t you want to meditate and/or pray to strengthen your mind against these detrimental things?

Exercising

Oh, the dreaded E-WORD. Exeerrcissee?!?

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Yes! Exercise! Getting up, getting active and getting SWEATY! I’ll admit, that doesn’t sound appealing at ALL (well maybe it does to exercise enthusiasts), HOWEVER. It is necessary if  we want to feel good inside and out. It’s weird though, when you exercise, you eventually start to have more energy all together. I don’t know about you, but THAT sounds extremely appealing!

Complaining

Don’t complain about something if you have no intention to try and fix it. Plain and simple. What good is your complaining going to do, except waste that precious God-given breath of yours? Go complain about not having enough art in your home and then go paint million dollar pieces. At least this way, you’ll relieve some stress, haha. I actually can’t promise that they’ll be million dollar pieces, but hey as long as you believe they are, THEN THEY ARE. Also, complaining takes a lot of effort, and eventually you’ll annoy yourself, even. You’ll just be sitting there about to complain, but suddenly stop and say to yourself, “What the heck, self.” Then you’ll proceed to get up and do something about what you were about to complain.


Now these may vary from other things you’ve seen online, but these are just the things that were shared with me. ❤️

Your Blood Pressure is Precious

Now, you may be wondering what this post is about. I advise you to continue reading. 👀

Is this health related?

  • No, not really.
  • Okay, maybe just a little bit.

What’s so precious about it?


Haha, okay enough jokes for now. In all seriousness though, your blood pressure is precious. What I mean by that is:

If there’s one thing I learned this year, in this fine year of 2018, is to NOT let other people and their craziness, problems or what have you, RAISE YOUR BLOOD PRESSURE.

There were countless times during earlier parts of the year where I found myself so infuriated, that I was getting lightheaded, couldn’t hardly think straight and just wanted to punch something. I’ve never experienced anger to that caliber before and let me tell you, it’s the worst feeling ever. When you’re that angry, it’s difficult to not lash out at others who are completely uninvolved in whatever you’re dealing with. Then when you come down from that heightened sense of anger, you feel like…to put it simply, you feel like crap. Supreme doo-doo. Anger doesn’t feel great at all, and when we let others affect our moods like this, in the long run, it won’t be healthy. For more reasons than one.

When we are dealing with difficult people in difficult situations, it’s important to go within in yourself in the moment, take a moment, analyze what the problem actually is and not let the words or actions of those involved set you off. Once that blood gets boiling it’s hard to cool down. If you discover that the problem doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you, great. Hold onto that, breathe and proceed to work with those involved to reach a resolution. If they’re not trying to cooperate, by all means, say you need to remove yourself until things calm down and then maybe try to revisit later. If they still aren’t cooperating, there’s not much you can do for them. The important thing is to not unnecessarily make their problem, your problem. However, if the problem involves you and you contributed to its creation, then work accordingly to come to a resolution. But resist letting the person, people or thing raise your blood pressure. Anger tends to make things worse (but being angry for the right reasons, helps).

Also, don’t turn to things like alcohol or other detrimental unnecessary substances that could potentially make matters worse (including your health) in an attempt to distract yourself from the situation(s) at hand.

As the year ends, just remember: Get angry for the right reasons. Being angry for the wrong reasons exacerbates things and fuels the fire (one of those fires being raised blood pressure 🌚).

❤❤❤

Random Thoughts

Have you ever just been sitting, laying or standing around not really doing anything, and the most completely random, hilarious and bizarre thought just pops into your head? Then you’re just there deliberating on the possibilities of this thought happening, or the chances of success if you were actually able to pull whatever it is off. LOL.

So. One morning, as I was laying in bed before getting up and getting ready for work, I started thinking to myself:

Okay. Say you’re in a skyscraper, and it’s on fire. Or maybe even in a plane and it’s heading towards the ground because an engine blew (okay these aren’t necessarily funny situations but, you get my point). Instead of just jumping out the window of the building or staying on the plane until it collides with the ground…what if you had a parachute. That was several bed sheets. It’s rigged in a way where it’s set up so that it behaves like an actual parachute. WHAT IF WE ALL JUST KEPT BED SHEETS WITH US FOR SITUATIONS LIKE THIS. 

There’s many reasons why this wouldn’t work, people, and seemingly enough, someone had the same thought as me, I discovered, once I googled the question: “can you use a bed sheet as a parachute?”

The similar question posed was: If you jumped off a skyscraper while using a sheet, like a bed sheet, as a parachute, should you survive?

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So, there you have it. We, obviously, cannot use bed sheets as parachutes. Dangit. But maybe one day!

Don’t you just love random thoughts?