BlerDCon the Recap: Part Two

YER. I see you made it to Part Two. Clearly that means you enjoyed Part One ๐Ÿ‘€.ย Welcome back, my dedicated reading friend.

Well, since Part One was mostly comprised of the activities I took part in while at the convention, you already know that the second part is going to be about…THE COOKOUT FAM, AYYYYY.

Every convention I go to, just expect me to mention the litty litness of The Cookout. Cookout Fam Chroniclesย if you will, haha. There’s a lot of pictures that I took of us, so please, enjoy this lovely slideshow:


I already learn so much from everyone day to day in Discord, but it’s on a different level when you see your fam in person actually speaking on their personal experiences, etc. with a passionate tone in their voices. Many of the panels I went to, we mostly ventured

Genesis speaking da truth

to together and it was astounding to hear everyone’s perspectives up close concerning stories and occurrences happening in our communities.

We basically traveled together in one big and various group pods the entire time, and let me tell you, it was the best thing ever. Sure it’s nice to enjoy something alone, but it’s even better to be able to share a moment with someone and laugh, cry and yes, even debate with them about what you all just witnessed (or overheard, LOL).

My most favorite moments occurred when we were all chilling upstairs in @Genesis_0109 hotel room, just hanging out, playing a card game he introduced us to, and just voicing our different opinions on a myriad of topics. If you fell asleep and got caught slipping, best believe you got sleep cammed by yours truly, LOL.

Yes, I have this thing I do called Sleep Cam:ย if you fall asleep around me while we are all being extremely loud and having fun, your picture will be taken and most likely with people doing random funny things in the background behind you.

I definitely can’t forget the after parties. WHEW CHILLEEEE. We danced and danced and danced, and I thoroughly enjoyed every moment of it. The fam gets super hype okay, that’s all I’m going to say on that.

So, about this COSPLAY.

Last but not least: I cosplayed for the first time in my entire life and let me tell you, that was one of the most exhilarating and rewarding experiences I have had in a while. I’m actually getting emotional as I reflect on getting everything together for it. I’m even more emotional because I cosplayed a character of my own original design.

Realizing the fact that I was able to bring her to life, and it wasn’t too shabby looking either? I WAS SHOOK. What made it even better was that a couple people actually chased me down to take a picture with me! I definitely wasn’t expecting that because, even though I was happy that I cosplayed, I was thinking that my cosplay wasn’t as great as some of the others I saw. I honestly had to keep reminding myself that none of that mattered and that I needed to stop comparing myself. At the end of the day, all that mattered was that I cosplayed, I did my best with what I had, I had fun and freaking I enjoyed it! Now I just have to work on my posing, LOL. (Solo photos of me courtesy of @Tru1p)

Right now, I’m tearing up because, this is my family, and in such a short time, these phenomenal individuals have become incredibly important to me and I care about each and every one of them. It’s such a blessing to be able to serve the community as an Admin staff member because I really get a chance to see how our efforts are helping those that come into the community from a granular perspective. Like I mentioned earlier, I learn so much from being around them and hearing their stories. Even though they roast the heck out of me (out of love, LOL), the out pouring of help, support and love I and everyone else receives is incredible. These are some of the most talented, driven, intelligent, hard-working and dedicated people that I’ve come to meet so far in my life. I hate that we all live so far away from each other, but it’s comforting to know that we are all just a Discord message, Voice Chat, Stream or Game Lobby away.

If you’re a PoC Content Creator looking for a group like The Cookout, I definitely recommend you check us out. The group is only accessible through an application, and that is temporarily closed while we process the huge number of applications we’ve received in the past month or so. However, keep up with us on Twitch, Instagram and Twitter!

Special Shout Out to the Cookout Fam I was able to hang with at this convention, y’all are top tier โค

@blisscreates, @stellyblanca, @SpoonGodTitan, @willthegreatest, @therealrapcritic @LilaBoBina, @Tru1p, @JermainePlays, @vickibewicked, @_LadyKayLee, @DippedNV8Splash, @007Steeze, @_kingether, @DJ_Cocoa_Butter, @CSamSim, @ProdigyDaPrince, @JediOso, @Leesh_Capeesh, @Nizzy917, @Bball4Life35, @frenchiefied, @unicorninthekitchen,ย @RobRegalGxC, @Genesis_0109, @Son_of_a_yellow, @shinageeeexpress, @TheRetroAstro, @dream_killa22, @xStill_Infamous, @skool_the_otaku and @kendallxanime

(Everyone above isn’t necessarily in the Cookout) If I missed you, it wasn’t on purpose. There was a lot of y’all in two days LOL.

Thank you again for reading Part Two of my BlerDCon Recap! There will be an actual vlog of the activities coming soon, once I find time to sit down and edit!

Did the Thing I Never Thought I’d Do.

You can guess. The very thing I was extremely adamant about.

Yep. I had sex. Before marriage. It happened.



This happened last year, so yeah, I lost my virginity when I was 23.

God snatched me up real quick and said “AY. You know this is NOT you. You’re not acting like yourself…,”.

I was really debating whether or not I would share this, primarily because not too long ago, I was up here blog posting all about how “Sex is for the Birds.” Saying I was waiting until I was married and everything. And yet, I fell weak to my flesh and didn’t wait any longer. I regret not waiting because, in retrospect, I gave my body to someone undeserving (I really thought they were at the time). It happened at a time that I wasn’t really respecting myself. I was going down a dark hole, turning my back on God and doing things that were very much so out of my character. But lissen:

God snatched me up real quick and said “AY. You know this is NOT you. You’re not acting like yourself…,”.

Okay, maybe He didn’t say it quite like that, but God got my attention. With a quickness.

Once He got my attention, it may or may not have taken a few more months after that for me to actually get a hold of myself, break free of the sinful actions I was participating in, and tell the devil to get thee behind for good. I took the time I needed to take, because listen, once I got tired, I got tired.

Let me say this though: sex is not a bad thing. God just wants us to engage in this activity with someone who we’re married to that really loves us and cares about us in every way they humanly can. Though things don’t always go this way, this is the way that He intended, and for good reason.

One reason is so we don’t regret giving our bodies, our temples, the place that God Himself lives within, to people who are undeserving.

  • To people who don’t understand how special you are.
  • To people who just want to use you as a means to their end of pleasuring themselves.
  • To people who could careless about your well-being.

I could go on all night, honey. Don’t get me started (at the same time, please do).

One of the other reasons I was so hesitant to share this was because I know I have a lot of people looking up to me. Who’ve made me their role model. I felt as though I’d disappointed all of them. I couldn’t even forgive myself (I can’t ask God to forgive me, if I can’t even forgive myself).

The good news is, I’ve forgiven myself, and that’s why I’m sharing this today. I hope the people I just mentioned can forgive me too, and please understand. I’m human, and you are too. We fall weak to things, but that’s okay. As long as we recognize this, and make an honest effort to not continue to fall weak, then it’s going to be okay at the end of the day.

As a result of my previous experience and the dark hole I almost got sucked into, never to be heard from again, I vowed to myself I wouldn’t give my body to another man unless he proved to me that he was deserving of me. And not just me either: you get my family along with me. We are a special breed that’s been through a lot. We won’t just let anyone waltz into our lives and let them try to wreak havoc where they may. Those days are over!

As a wise person once said:

If you want to be in my life, you have to respect my life. To respect my life, you have to know the rules of my life.

I hope you’ve all been well! Thanks for continuing to hang with me โค

Relationship Hiatus

This post may come as a shock to a lot of you, and quite frankly, to a lot of you…it may not.

Almost three months ago now (sheesh, time really does fly by)…I made a rather difficult and heart wrenching decision to end my relationship with my boyfriend of two years. There’s nothing to speak on about it, I made my decision for reasons that will not be disclosed and it is what it is. I say it was a difficult and heart wrenching decision because, I really do love him, and still do. However, sometimes, things just don’t work out, and that’s all there is to say about that.

I didn’t think I was going to write a blog about my decision, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that I needed to blog about it. If you’re looking for me to talk bad about him, then I’m not sorry to disappoint you; none of that will be taking place. In fact, I sincerely hope he is doing well.

Continue to live your life and impact others with your gifts, love and presence that God has blessed you with.

There comes a time when you have to part ways with some people in your life. It’s not because they’ve done anything wrong or you’ve done anything wrong. It’s because the season for you to be with that person (or those friends, etc.) has ended, and it’s time to transition into another one where you take what you’ve learned from the previous and continue to grow. Continue to live your life and impact others with your gifts, love and presence that God has blessed you with. Continue to experience and really go through life, paying attention to the little details that make life worthwhile (especially the details that make the people you love in your life, them).

So, in regards to the title of my post today, I am taking time for myself to do these things I mentioned above. I am taking a Relationship Hiatus.

I have no interest in dating anyone until I decide that I want to do so. I’m disregarding these feelings of lust and loneliness, and praying that God will continue to prepare me for the husband He has set aside for me. I have some things to work on anyway, and one of these things includes not neglecting myself along with my friends and family when I do enter into a relationship again. I’m in the process of taking this time to really focus on myself, my family and friends, and just laugh. Laugh until we cry, laugh for no reason! Uplift, and encourage them (I was doing this before, but I’m going HAM now). Travel! But also, cry with them if we need to and really become reinvested in their lives.

I almost lost myself in my previous relationship, and as a result, couldn’t be the person I was supposed to be transforming into. Since I’ve ended my relationship, I’ve been putting in overtime to work on this, and I’m happy to report that I’m seeing a change take place. My joy has literally returned and I’m one step closer to being the fierce woman I was when I went to Spain by myself two years ago. However, I’m not stopping there. Oh, no. I’m going to be the next best version of that woman I was two years ago. I know I’m going to be this because God has called me to be this and strongly desires me to come into my full potential. How do I know? Like I said…

I can already feel and see it happening. I am LIVING it.

(Besides, I figure as long as I’ve gotten married on the island of St. Croix and have had my two children before I turn 35, I’m along for the ride, haha.)

Though I make these plans for myself, God has a sense of humor. So regardless of these plans, His plan is still the Master Plan. Though you make plans for yourself, and planning is essential since, if you fail to plan you plan to fail, always put your trust and renew your faith in God, and you’ll be amazed at how things will turn around. You are FAVORED!

Much love to you all, as always. ๐Ÿ’–ย – Bianca

Your Blood Pressure is Precious

Now, you may be wondering what this post is about. I advise you to continue reading. ๐Ÿ‘€

Is this health related?

  • No, not really.
  • Okay, maybe just a little bit.

What’s so precious about it?

Haha, okay enough jokes for now. In all seriousness though, your blood pressure is precious. What I mean by that is:

If there’s one thing I learned this year, in this fine year of 2018, is to NOT let other people and their craziness, problems or what have you, RAISE YOUR BLOOD PRESSURE.

There were countless times during earlier parts of the year where I found myself so infuriated, that I was getting lightheaded, couldn’t hardly think straight and just wanted to punch something. I’ve never experienced anger to that caliber before and let me tell you, it’s the worst feeling ever. When you’re that angry, it’s difficult to not lash out at others who are completely uninvolved in whatever you’re dealing with. Then when you come down from that heightened sense of anger, you feel like…to put it simply, you feel like crap. Supreme doo-doo. Anger doesn’t feel great at all, and when we let others affect our moods like this, in the long run, it won’t be healthy. For more reasons than one.

When we are dealing with difficult people in difficult situations, it’s important to go within in yourself in the moment, take a moment, analyze what the problem actually is and not let the words or actions of those involved set you off. Once that blood gets boiling it’s hard to cool down. If you discover that the problem doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you, great. Hold onto that, breathe and proceed to work with those involved to reach a resolution. If they’re not trying to cooperate, by all means, say you need to remove yourself until things calm down and then maybe try to revisit later. If they still aren’t cooperating, there’s not much you can do for them. The important thing is to not unnecessarily make their problem, your problem. However, if the problem involves you and you contributed to its creation, then work accordingly to come to a resolution. But resist letting the person, people or thing raise your blood pressure. Anger tends to make things worse (but being angry for the right reasons, helps).

Also, don’t turn to things like alcohol or other detrimental unnecessary substances that could potentially make matters worse (including your health) in an attempt to distract yourself from the situation(s) at hand.

As the year ends, just remember: Get angry for the right reasons. Being angry for the wrong reasons exacerbates things and fuels the fire (one of those fires being raised blood pressure ๐ŸŒš).


Donโ€™t Throw People Away

I took a trip to NJ earlier this year to visit my family. One of my aunts celebrated her 60th birthday.

While we were there, we stopped by and visited my grandfather (my dad’s father). Like we normally do when we all stop by and visit him when we’re in town, we sit in the downstairs living room and just discuss a plethora of things. We laugh, we get super serious, we cry, and then we laugh some more.

At one point, my mother brought up a moment that happened earlier this year when she was dropping my grandmother (her mom) off at her Wellness Center one morning. She described that many elderly people (and even young ones) with and without disabilities get dropped off by their loved ones or caregivers, and while she was describing this, her tone changed to sadness.

Her tone changed to sadness because, while these people are dropping off their family members or friends, they don’t tell them “goodbye,” or “I’ll see you later,” or “I love you.” By this point, my mom had tears in her eyes.

There was one older lady in particular that my mother watched get dropped off one day and the person that dropped her off didn’t say a word to the woman she was leaving. In fact, she was kind of rude with the person she was dropping off. On top of that, the older lady looked slightly sad and maybe even a little angry. As this was happening, my mom was walking in my grandmother to get her signed in. By this time, the person who dropped the woman off had already left, and my mom was getting ready to leave as well. My mom always makes a point in telling my grandmother, “Have a good day, I love you and I’ll see you later.” The other elderly lady who was still in the room thought my mother was telling her this, so she turned around, smiled at my mother and said to her, “I love you too” then proceeded to walk into the rest of the center.

Wow. What a day changer that can be for someone!

It’s a big deal in my family to say “I’ll see you later” instead of “Bye”, whenever we have to depart from one another for the time being. It’s an even BIGGER deal to make sure we tell each other that we love each other, even if we just had an argument and no body is trying to say that to anyone at the moment in time (haha). Yet, we still do it. We still say we love each other because, it could be the last chance we have to do so, and we don’t want to regret not letting each other know that we love each other despite how crazy we can be sometimes. Or how difficult we can be sometimes. Or how almost unforgiving we can be sometimes. Because we never know.

As we go throughout life, sometimes we tend to treat those who are advanced in their age almost as if they are a burden, they don’t know what they’re talking about half the time, they’re too closed minded for any real conversation or anything meaningful to get through to them or they’re just completely senile.

This is not true.

They are still people. People who are wise. People who still need to know that someone is there for them. That someone is listening to them. That someone cares about them. That someone loves them. They still matter. After all, they are the ones that raised us. Took care of us and nurtured us as we started finding our way through life.

So why is it that people, when our elders become elders…we start treating them like that? Why do we start to “throw them away,”?

Perhaps, and I’m speaking for myself because at one point I was guilty of doing so and I was wrong for doing it, but. Perhaps, it’s because we don’t want to accept that they’re getting older. That they are starting to lose heartwarming memories. That they physically aren’t able to do the things they used to be able to do. Perhaps it’s making us so angry that it’s happening, that we project that anger onto them. They don’t deserve that. They don’t deserve to be thrown away, not after everything a lot of them have done for us.

I may be speaking about taking care of our elders and not throwing them away because of their age and/or disabilities, but this goes for everyone in our lives. We are all valuable, precious children of God, and we need to treat each other as such.

As the year ends, just take some time to reflect and see if you’ve unintentionally “thrown someone away” because you were angry at them, because they were dealing with something personal and it was unfortunately affecting the relationship you had with them, because of a disability, because of a misunderstanding, or even because of their age. If you’ve done this, I pray that there’s still a chance to pick them back up and show them that you care. Tell them that you love them. If you can, give them a great ginormous bear hug. Apologize if you need to apologize for whatever, and hopefully end the year on a good note so that the new year can positively start.

Thank you to all my readers, and followers and supporters and everyone. God Bless and I hope you all have a Happy New Year! ๐ŸŽ†๐ŸŽ‡โœจ

Promise Rings: Do you want one/Would you give one?

Lately I’ve been hearing more and more talk about promise rings. Maybe this is because I’m in that age range when people start thinking about who they’re going to marry, when they’re going to propose, and when they’ll actually get married (or actually getting engaged and married, haha). It’s really a hot topic of conversation amongst my peers, so it got me thinking:

If someone in a relationship is not ready to propose with the real engagement ring (for financial or other reasons), would you want a promise ring or want to give a promise ring in the interim?

Feel free to answer this question in the comments.


Quick to Listen, Slow to Speak

No, really, ask yourself. Are you honestly a good listener?

I’ll be honest and say that I’m not. BUT. I am making an effort to change that. I’ve already seen a difference in the conversations I have with my friends and family, and even random people who decide to share things with me.

Someone quipped, “God gave us two ears and one mouth because we need to listen twice as much as we talk.” Learning that means being “quick to listen, slow to speak.” Good listening builds relationships. But good listeners aren’t born, they’re bred!ย So here are a few suggestions to improve your listening:

  1. Listen without interrupting: Resist the temptation to jump in and finish the sentence, or hijack the floor. Rein yourself in – just listen.
  2. Listen to understand: Try to understand their point of view, feelings, thinking and needs. Good listening is hearing what they actually think, mean or feel, not what you imagine they do. Instead of guessing, ask, “Am I understanding you correctly? Do you mean…? Are you feeling…?” In other words, don’t assumeverify.
  3. Listen without judging: Don’t rush to conclusions. If what they say doesn’t quite add up, keep listening. “He who answers a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame to him” (Proverbs 18:13). When you hear more, it may make sense.
  4. Listen without correcting, countering or devaluing: Saying, “That’s not the way it was,” or “What did you expect? If you hadn’t…” or, “You’re just being too sensitive,” (in other words, getting defensive, straight up attacking or “flipping the script” before letting the person finish), puts people on guard and stops real communication. We know this to be true, as we’ve all experienced it. How many times has this happened and you just started to shut down because you couldn’t even get what you had to say out before the other person or people jutted in? It doesn’t make anyone feel good, and it can incite anger.
  5. Validate the speaker: Accept their perceptions and feelings as valid expressions of a valued person. “If I understand you correctly, you’re thinking…feeling…Am I right?” Ask them to help get you on the same page with them. Everyone understands things and thinks differently, so you have to be aware of that. “Given what you’ve told me, I can see why you’d feel what you feel,” is very validating and will increase their confidence and willingness to consider the solutions you may offer.


– From:ย The Word for you Today: A Gift for You (with some personal bits from yours truly added in)




I decided to type up some of my pet peeves. Slight change of pace. Why? No real reason, but these are on my mind almost all of the time and they irk my soul when I encounter them. I hope some of them make you laugh, because even though I’m slightly serious, I was laughing the whole time I typed this up.

PET PEEVE #1: People responding to only one part of a text

Um. Hello? I know you’re not illiterate, especially if we’ve been having a decent conversation this whole time. Are you reading too fast or something? Is part of the message encrypted and I wasn’t aware? Are you only just answering the parts you deem worthy enough of a response? Come on people. ADDRESS THE WHOLE MESSAGE. Otherwise, the message would’ve only included that one part you decided to respond to. You know…I notice that a lot of guys do this.

PET PEEVE #2: Choosing the neighboring bathroom stall

Okay. This one right here, OH MY goodtness. Not goodness. G o o d t n e s s. I absolutely cannot STAND when I’m chilling in the bathroom handling my business, there’s 20 other stalls, I’m probably at the second to last stall in the bathroom, almost completely shut off from society…AND SOMEONE DECIDES TO USE THE ONE RIGHT NEXT TO ME. Seriously? You bypassed ALL of those stalls, for why? Are you trying to mask your odor, the demonic funk you’re about to release, by using the stall next to me? Some nerve. Here’s a tip: courtesy flush.

PET PEEVE #3: Unnecessary yelling

You know when you’re trying to have a calm, cool and collected conversation with someone, you press some kind of nerve of theirs, and then they just explode? They literally just go from 0 to 5000 and begin firing off their yelling canon, not even giving you a chance to speak anymore. OR, if you’re just chilling peacefully watching t.v. or sleeping, and someone enters the room, yelling for absolutely NO reason. It’s like, okay, we know you’re here now, please close your frontal mouth hole and cease creating a disturbance in my ear.

PET PEEVE #4: My Generation

Yes. The generation I belong to annoys the absolute crap out of me, for more reasons than one. Need an example real quick? Just go check any one of your social media platforms (don’t get me wrong, we’re still pretty cool though).

PET PEEVE #5: Answering a completely different question than the one that was asked

I really wonder if people even listen to what I’m saying sometimes. I asked a specific question. I even showed you exactly what I was asking about. I didn’t ask about the temperature in Antarctica. My question had nothing to do with weather in any way shape or form (that didn’t actually happen, but you get my point).

PET PEEVE #6: When you’re trying to decide on something, but people aren’t focused

Did we really just sit here and have a whole meeting, about one whole issue, and spend the whole time talking about something completely unrelated to this whole issue? Then you want to have a meeting again next week? What are we going to have, a meeting about a meeting? OR: When you’re trying to decide on somewhere to go have fun and people keep saying “it doesn’t matter to me.” [insert dolphin sounds from Spongebob here] IF SOMEONE DOESN’T CHOOSE A PLACE IN THE NEXT 5 SECONDS…I’m going home and going to sleep. I don’t have time for the indecisiveness.

PET PEEVE #7: Posting subliminal messages online

Ljfdoknajfdojaf. YO! Stop the madness! PLEASE. Grow up! Stop being petty. Especially if you’re 17 and older. I understand that the maturity may or may not be present at the age of 17, but anything beyond that…go sit down somewhere. Siรฉntate! Instead of posting subliminally about whoever or whatever…go handle your issues! Especially if you’re claiming you’re grown! Doing this is one of the most childish and immature things one could do. Seriously, grow up.

I could go on for a while, but I’ll stop at numero siete. Listen, I tell you. I don’t hate people, or dislike people…I just despise the things some of y’all do. DETEST. I don’t know why you do them, but you do, and there’s nothing I can do about it. So there’s no point in getting angry, right? Right.

(will probably continue to get a little angry)

Y’all pray for me, LOL.


Be sure to check out my Youtube Channel! There should be a link somewhere around here, happy hunting ๐Ÿ˜‰

Net Neutrality – What You Should Know, Etc.

So we keep seeing this topic called Net Neutrality floating around on various social media and news outlets. A lot of you may still be wondering what the heck it’s all about. If you haven’t taken the time to research what it is and what it is not, now is the time to do so.

To put it simply: without Net Neutrality, we’re going to have to start paying for access to different sites that we already access for free.


Yeah, doesn’t sound cool right? I’m sure a lot of us are already BROKE as it is with the bills and things we have to currently take care of. Government got me bent if they think I’m going to pay even more to use the internet. SIKE.

But anyway everyone, listen. It’s important that you take action so that we can continue to access the internet and it’s numerous resources for free. How would you feel if you, or your kids, or someone you know with kids, needed to go to the library to use a computer because you can’t afford your own at the moment and then end up being told that you have to pay for the different sites it’s imperative for you to access? HOW WOULD YOU FEEL!?ย 


If you’re a college student (any student really), how would you feel about having to pay to access resources for class (aside from the ones we had to empty all the pieces of lint out of our pockets for ALREADY)??

Or, you don’t have cable, so one of the only ways you can stay updated on the news is by visiting a news website?

Or you know if you make a living off of game streaming, or YouTubing, etc. and you have to pay to use Twitch, Mixer, YouTube, etc.? IT’S UNIMAGINABLE.



Fight against it! The vote to get it repealed or to keep it will be cast on Thursday. We have two more days. SPREAD THE WORD. I’m sure there’s a lot more worrisome things going on in the world that a lot of us ignore as it is, but this isn’t one of the things we need to be ignoring. Stay informed, get active, and speak out.

CHECK THE LINKS BELOW. Some of them I’ve read thoroughly, others I haven’t, but they looked promising (if they aren’t just let me know and I’ll remove them). The first two links are ways to send messages to the FCC to tell them to chill out.

Join the online protest to stop the FCC.

Did you know that the FCC is going to have a NET NEUTRALITY VOTE ON DEC 14th?

Net neutrality repeal based on false description of Internet, inventors say

Net Neutrality Explained: What It Means (and Why It Matters)



Other than that, I hope you all have a very Merrrrryyy Holiday season!

Sex is for the Birds…

Until I get married that is!

But, it’s something people talk about on a consistent basis. There’s not a day that goes by where someone isn’t talking about it. As if that’s all people think about. Soon as I open Twitter, if it’s not the first thing I see, I guarantee it’ll be the next tweet on my timeline. Why are people so obsessed with sex, and having it?


You’re probably sitting there reading this like “Oh, she’s probably never had sex before.”

YOU DANG RIGHT. I’m a virgin, and proud to be one.

Now, I’m not speaking ill about anyone who has had sex or is currently active as we speak, that’s their prerogative, their life, do you boo boo. However, I made a personal decision to not have sex until I am absolutely sure that whatever guy I am in a relationship with is 100% serious about me, a.k.a. we are MARRIED.

No, it’s not some religious thing. I made this decision because 1) there are less headaches, 2) I’m not trying to catch the pregnant yet, and 3) I’m DEFINITELY not trying to catch a STD that some of y’all are passing around out here because you’re not being responsible and GETTING YOURSELF CHECKED…nor admitting that you have something to your sexual partner at the moment…you nasties. Condoms don’t catch everything people!


Also, I always get this question: “What if when you get married, the sex isn’t good?” AS IF THAT’S THE SOLE REASON I’LL MARRY A GUY. Being able to have sex…make pure, genuine love with the love of your life? Honey, that’s a perk. A BLESSING. A blessing I only want to share with only one person. If the love making isn’t all that great at first, he better buckle up because we are going to get better together and LEARN. Like I believe we are supposed to.


Again, sex is for the birds (until I get married). I absolutely refuse to give my body to any guy unless they have gotten down on one knee and then given me their last name. I REFUSE.

Call me crazy, but this is my resolve.

Now, do I think about what it’s like? Of course I do. There’s no shame in that. I am human. I ask my friends tons of questions because I am curious to know. It’s actually quite fun and interesting to hear them talk about their experiences. However, just because I am curious, doesn’t mean I am going to act on it.

If you’re out there, waiting until you get married too (girls and guys alike), you got this. No one can put pressure on you to do anything if you don’t allow them to.


But…if you’re out here wildin’ out ๐Ÿ˜‚, best of luck to you, I pray you don’t catch anything, and BE SAFE. There’s too many things going around out here to not be, you dig? Educate yourself and others and ADVOCATE GETTING TESTED REGULARLY. There’s no shame in being in charge of your sexual health.

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Happy Holidays ๐Ÿ™‚ LOL.